Okay ladies, last GirlTalk we began our three part conversation on self-love. Today we are going to take a look at one of the areas I feel keeps us from entering in to a healthy self-love: Acceptance.
To love ourselves, we must first accept ourselves. This is probably the hardest thing to do at times. I have definitely been in the mindset before where my self-worth and self-acceptance was dependent on a number on the scale, and how clean my house was. I struggle with being a control freak and I DO NOT like it when there is an area of my life that I cannot control. But the truth is, there are plenty of things about ourselves that we can’t change nor control no matter how hard we may try or wish or pray. I recently read a great sermon on this subject and the pastor listed ten unchangeables in our lives that we have to learn to accept before we can love ourselves just as we are. Here is a quoted section from what he had to say:
“God has created every one of us with ten unchangeables in our lives: Parents, gender, physical features, mental capacity, race or nationality, birth order, siblings, time in history, aging and death. Whenever you compare one of these unchangeables with another person or other people, you are tempted and tend to develop feelings of inferiority and it challenges your self-acceptance. After all, Satan hates your body, it’s in the image of God. It’s the temple of the Holy Spirit. But because you’re a member of the Body of Christ you’re able to take and make the members of your body weapons against him! So suffice it to say that you have a challenge of loving yourself on your hands!”
Wow! What a powerful and life changing view on how we should see ourselves! I have never thought about the fact that Satan hates my body because it’s in the image of God. No wonder so many of us struggle with self-image. Satan doesn’t want us to realize the power we have within us, nor the importance of loving ourselves; rather, Satan wants us to pick ourselves apart so our focus will be on us and not on Christ.
In the book of Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus says, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Love is very important to God, He is love. It is so important that it encompasses the greatest two commandments that He gave. But God does not only want us to love Him, and to love others, He also wants us to love ourselves. If you will notice the last line in those scriptures it says, “Love your neighbor as yourself”. The word AS is an adverb and it means to be “used in comparisons to refer to the extent or degree of something”. So let’s retype that verse with this definition in place of the word AS. “Love your neighbor in comparisons to refer to the extent or degree of yourself”. I certainly hope you don’t pick your neighbor apart or tell them they need to lose weight, so we shouldn’t treat ourselves that way either.
God needs us to accept ourselves so we can have a healthy self-love, which will in turn allow us to love God and others in a more genuine way.
I encourage you this week in two ways:
- Make a list of the things that you don’t want to accept but fall under the ten unchangeables listed above. After you have it listed out, spend time this week praying over those things, surrendering them to God and asking Him to help you accept the things you cannot change.
- Read the attached article. This article was really eye opening for me. I would love it if all women everywhere could read this. http://www.rolereboot.org/life/details/2013-06-when-your-mother-says-shes-fat
Hope you have an awesome weekend!
Coming up on Monday: Media Monster