I Love Me, I Love Me Not


I have had a ton of questions come in that fall under the GirlTalk category. Most of these questions are relationship based, and sadly a lot of them are asking how to mend broken relationships. So after a great and awe-inspiring conversation with my best friend, (love ya Laura!) I have decided to focus our first GirlTalk on ourselves. Let’s be honest ladies, the hardest person for you to love and accept is you. Women tend to see ourselves in such a negative light, always finding our imperfections and zooming in on them. But the harsh reality that lives behind this truth, is that until we can see ourselves as God does, all of our relationships present and future will suffer.

From the beginning God demonstrates how personally He cares for us. Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created them.” God don’t make no junk! If He didn’t love us so much He wouldn’t have fashioned us after Himself.

The love God has for us is far different than the love we have for ourselves and even for others. According to Romans 5:8, “But God shows his great love for us in this way: Christ died for us while we were still sinners.” God didn’t wait until we were perfect, or even close to being perfect before choosing to love us.

God chose us to be here. He has a plan for our lives. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.” We are not here by mistake, no matter what your mama did with whomever when she was sixteen in the back of a pick-up. God has chosen us for such a time as this; He believes in us!

God thinks you are worth it! God loves you! He believes in you! He took time to create you, “For [He] created my inmost being [He] knit me together in my mother’s womb” (psalm 139:13).  So why is it hard to for us to have a healthy self-love?

I think this issue spans across three areas that have to be addressed before one can move into a place of self-love. Those areas are:

  1. Acceptance

We don’t want to accept the things we can’t change


We have a hard time forgiving ourselves of our past sins or past things that have been done to us

3.We see self-love as selfishness

I want to spend the next three GirlTalks covering these three topics because if not dealt with in our lives, they can lead to self-hate and the breakdown of relationships, especially our relationship with Christ.

I hope you all have an awesome weekend! Try to see yourself this weekend as Christ sees you: a beautiful, chosen creation that He created in His own image.

Coming up on Monday: Going to the Source


One response »

  1. This is good, and I think one thing that also has to be remembered is that to truly understand the riches of God’s grace and his love and forgiveness is to come to realize how truly wicked and sinful we are in the flesh. The more we realize our sinfulness and brokenness, the more beautiful our Savior’s grace, love and forgiveness becomes! (Eph 1:5-8)

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